I recently went on a fall transition shopping spree and found some great affordable looks to share with you! This is the first outfit and it might possibly be my favorite at the moment. It is so cute and full of fall tones, yet very versatile for the summer fall transition season.
I adore this floral dress. I liked that the dress is a spaghetti strap dress so it can be worn in the heat of the summer. I was feeling a little exposed and wanted to add a transitional piece to this look so paired this dress with a maroon tassel fringed lace kimono.
I don’t think I will ever get tired of these espadrille wedges!
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It’s a sad thing when friends disappear out of nowhere. There are times when I, myself, disappear from communication with friends. It’s not something that I intentionally do, but it kind of just happens when I get overwhelmed or need a break from doing too much!
But I’m not talking about the brief moments of silence, I’m talking about the fall off of the face of the Earth kind of lack of communication or even acknowledgment.
“I haven’t been the best at communicating enough”
This is a tough subject to face because no one wants to feel like they have been forgotten or defriended. I want to be real with you and tell you first hand that I have been faced with this issue myself several times. I have had the close friends that I have slowly lost contact with and then it dwindles into a past friendship. I have had the friendships that can go weeks or more without communication and pick right back up. I have even been on the end of the friendship were I haven’t been the best at communicating enough and I have purposely had to stop communicating all together due to the toxic nature the friendship had on my life.
I wanted to share some insight into instances when friends go rogue and how to possibly repair it. Its not a term you hear regularly and maybe you’ve never heard it put this way before but after I explain my meaning behind it you might realize that you have/had a rouge friendship or you yourself have/had gone rogue.
“Friends that don’t support your success but are there for the details when you are failing”
The friendship I am referring to are the ones that are good for a while and the communication slowly starts to drift. You can reach out at times and get a response but it only goes so far. The friendship then starts to take a turn to where you are only hearing from them when its convenient for them. You only hear from them when they need something from you, whether that be physical help, to borrow something, needing some money and take forever to pay you back or not at all, or to pick your brain for knowledge. Friends that want to drag you into a negative situation, to bring you down either to their level of struggle or debt. They talk about you negatively or share negativity about other to you. Friends that preach bad advice to you. Friends that don’t support your success but are there for the details when you are failing and struggling. They love when you are trying to keep your head above water and they bask in your struggles because they feel superior in your season of hardship.
This really doesn’t sound like a friend at all does it?
“You truly believe they have your best interest in mind”
Its hard to identify because you want to maintain this friendship. The signs can be difficult to identify as well. I think there are instances when people we think are our friends tend to bring us further down rather than building us up. Try to identify these characteristics and know that you are doing your best, you will succeed, you will overcome! This can be difficult because you are relying on this friendship,long term or short, that has slowly gone rogue on you. You truly believe they have your best interest in mind so you fall into this cycle of negativity, right where they want you, leaving you feeling and believing you have been defeated and have failed. But I am here to tell you two things.
You don’t have to stand for this and you can be the bigger person and make the change within the friendship.
When enough is enough……shit! ITS ENOUGH! You can’t take anymore. You don’t deserve to be ignored or treated like the examples I stated above. You have the choice to remove yourself from the friendship and, if you choose to, possibly reach out and give your reasoning for doing so. IF you choose to continue your friendship have a face to face talk with your friend. Be sure to be completely honest. Don’t sugar coat it. You have to get your feelings/thoughts across to them so they can fully understand how you are feeling.
You need to know that there are people that WILL support you in your success and in your fails. They will be there for you in your good times and in bad. They will stand beside you and cheer you on and congratulate you win you are winning and will life you up and hold you when you are falling.
I am trying my best to take my own advice and be a better friend and be more present…..I challenge you to do the same.